One sided love

Welcome to the second part of my series "love nest". I hope you do enjoy reading it and redefine the meaning of love.

Most of us think that one sided love is full of struggle and sadness and what not. But that is because most of us do not understand what love is. First thing we need to understand is there is no such thing known as two sided love. Because we think that love is two sided, we start having expectations from each other. When the opposite person isn't able to make it up to us, it leads to conflicts and sometimes break-up.

Love is always one sided and that is why we cannot ever control the other person's love. But what we can do is control our side of love. So what most of the people understand by the meaning of love is who makes us happy or what makes the other person happy. Which is wrong because it starts a conflict either of the situations. Like if we love someone just because they make us happy, then we become selfish and even if someday the relationship gets ruined we think that only the other person will be affected because of it, but in some way or the other we will be affected too because we were connected too.



When we are connected with someone on every level, when we are united with someone, it makes the both of us happy. For example if you are completely united with a person and you go somewhere with that person, and you see the sky or the birds or numerous things around you and every bit of it makes you happy, then we can call that as love. When you just want to see the person in their eyes and feel that the two of you want to just be with each other, we get a strange feeling of love. We feel like everything around us is happiness. Everything around us is positive. For some moments we forget everything. We feel peaceful.

But people often say that these moments don't last long. After that moment is over we again start having arguments and there starts the inner conflicts. But what we want is to have that peace always inside us as we had in that moment. The biggest question which arises now is how do we get connected with someone so that we always attain peace.

Love is always one sided. The people who say that love is two sided, they just tend to label the connection which we develop with someone as two sided love. As we know that when we connect with someone for some moments and have a basic connection, it tends to get destroyed after a certain time. When we think that someone is perfect for us and the other person doesn't think the same, we tend to get frustrated because we get connected with that person but the other person doesn't. For example if our mood is romantic and the other person's isn't just because they had a bad day, and we don't understand their problem, there starts another conflict because we couldn't get connected.

But if we understand the opposite person's problem and still feel happy and we are able to handle that person from the core of our heart, which ultimately means that even if the other person doesn't match our expectations we are still connected with them from inside not just to show off. Then there are no conflicts involved. Understanding is much needed in a relationship. Understanding is not something you need to force on someone, it should come from inside. The thing we say that "we don't need understanding in love" is actually attraction.

Most important thing here is that attraction doesn't last forever but love does. Where two people are united it is love. Sometimes it might happen that two people are connected from their soul but their outer personalities are different. There they have to choose different paths to go on to. But we do that for us and not for a single person's selfishness. Even the separation happened for both of "us". If we are together it is for us and if we drift apart it is for us. Then that is love.



This was just a small introduction for one sided love, I know most of the people were trying to find "How to get over one sided love?" or "How to make other person feel love?" I promise I will explain those things in my future blogs.

I love you all,

Be happy,
Be positive,
Keep smiling,
Feel free to contact me if you are feeling low or you need anything,
See you guys in my next blog...