What is love?

Welcome to my new series called as "Love Nest". Here we will try to understand what love actually is. This is the first part of the series. I hope you do enjoy reading it and redefine the meaning of love.

Love the most wonderful feeling in this world. Love which is endless. For which people are ready to sacrifice their lives. We have read about some of the most wonderful love stories in world. Love a feeling which makes us feel like we are the luckiest people in the world. It makes us feel like we are on the 7th sky. Sometimes we are desperate for love and when someone breaks our heart we tend to hate love and that person. 

We generally tend to confuse love with relationship. We often think that if we are in relationship with someone it is love, sometimes even if we do realize that there is no love between us we force ourselves to love the other person. Which creates even a bigger separation between the two of us. For example it happens most of the times, that sometimes two people are in relationship for a long time but there is no love.



So, what is real love? the answer to this question lies within us. Real love is when we can see ourselves in the opposite person's eyes, regardless of the fact that we are in relationship with them or not. If we can see each other in each other's eyes that is love. Because then there is no separation between us. 

When there are two separate people, and they say that 'you' are 'you' and 'I' am 'me', then love is impossible to happen. There can be relationship between them or there can be an attachment among them but true love is not possible. When they both get what they want from each other, maybe intentionally or unintentionally they leave each other. They tend to loose the craze or what we call spark among them. Then they try to find someone new in search of that spark.



We often tend to mistake love with needs. May it be our emotional need or physical need. We tend to give a physical attraction towards someone the name of love. Otherwise if we like some qualities of a certain person and we try to get in a relationship with them and after a certain time we get married to them. We think that now we are married so we are supposed to love the other person. So we start faking it and have other affairs to satisfy our needs or find love.



But what we are talking here is about true love. Where there is no separation between two people. Where there is no "you" and "me" it's just "us". Where there aren't any sensations or there is no trying to make the opposite person feel love. Where there are no chemical reactions in our brain. Where there aren't any breakups or patch-ups. Where we don't want anything in return from that person. Not even the same love back. Where there aren't any thoughts about anything when we are with that person. Where there is nothing between us. Satisfying our needs is not love, our needs getting satisfied without trying to satisfy is love.

Love is when you can just sit with each other for hours and hours without even uttering a single word. If you are with a person without wanting a single thing from them, then you can call it love. Love is when you feel calmness with the other person and not over excited. People feel like they fall in love in a month or two but what they don't understand is it takes a lifetime to understand and feel real love. Love is where there is no chance of two people getting separated or getting back from "us" to "you" and "me". Where it is impossible to end it. 

Love is when both the people leave their egos and self respect to just be with each other, for each other.

This was just a small introduction to what is love, because love is a topic which itself is endless.

I love you all,

Be happy,
Be positive,
Keep smiling,
Feel free to contact me if you are feeling low or you need anything,

See you guys in my next blog...